Like most people my age and older, I grew up without the Internet. When I was 16, my grandfather got Prodigy and put all of his children on his account, so that was my first foray into the world of cyberspace, but it was a far cry from what we now know as the World Wide Web.
Over the next few years, the Internet became more and more available and by the time I was 22, I lived in a house with a dial-up Internet connection and had my own e-mail account. We all know what the next eleven years entailed (yes, I’ll be 33 on December 26. Stop by and say hello!).
This marvel of modern technology allows people to stay in touch across vast distances. When I was a kid, a move to the next town led to a lot of lost friendships because it wasn’t easy to keep in touch. These days, my daughter keeps in touch with friends in three states through e-mail and Facebook (and that wonder of wonders, the cell phone. Remember when you had to wait until after 7 p.m. to make long distance phone calls and they were kept to ten minutes because it cost 10 cents a minute to talk over and above the regular phone bill?).
I’ve mentioned before in this blog that I have reconnected with old friends I never thought I’d see or hear from again. It’s been a wonderful experience. For all these reasons, I love the Internet.
But there’s a dark side. And, no, I’m not talking about what a lot of you probably think I’m talking about. That particular problem hasn’t been an issue in my life, thank goodness. No, this is a personal issue I have, and apparently I am not alone.
I had dinner a couple weeks ago with Leslee from Waiting for the Click. The subject of the Internet came up, and our discussion was about how we feel when we spend too much time online, especially doing specific things.
Like I’ve mentioned before, I have set goals for myself as far as writing and reading. I want to read a book a week (I did manage to read two in the past month and am on number three). But I tend to find ways of procrastinating on these goals, and one of those ways is to waste a lot of time online. And I don’t like it.
When I joined Weight Watchers, it was the online program. Weight Watchers Online has message boards, and of course I got sucked in. Now, I have met some of those people in real life and others have become good cyber friends. It’s almost like having hundreds of pen pals, if that makes sense.
I find, though, that the Internet, especially when it’s a place frequented by people who don’t know each other outside of that context, brings out an ugliness in people. There are people who post on that board who I sincerely hope are much nicer and more positive people when they aren’t there. And I know that sometimes I can be grumpier on that board than I ever would be if I were face to face with someone. Couple that with the fact that something you type might come across very differently if it was said in person, and people react harshly online when they might not if you were face to face.
All of that makes message boards in general very stressful places to spend one’s time.
But I do. I go there when I’m bored or procrastinating. I don’t feel good, spiritually, when I spend too much time there. I feel much better when I spend that time writing or reading. I’d rather be with friends having a lively conversation. I prefer all those things to time online. Yet I get sucked in almost daily. Because, I guess, at heart, it’s easier to be lazy.
I don’t spend gobs of time on Facebook. I will check it to see what’s happening and if I have any messages, then log off. There really isn’t anything else that takes up so much time. I do read quite a few blogs regularly now and look for new ones, but I feel enriched by that. I get inspiration from the words and writing styles of others. Somehow, I need the strength and wherewithal to just never even open that website again.
Brain candy is nice sometimes. But I should be spending more time doing things that make me feel alive and fewer things that make my teeth clench.
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